How to Cherish the Wedding Experience

You spend a lot of time thinking about your wedding. Food that your guests will eat. Wine they will drink. Music for dancing. We rarely stop to think about our own experience as the bride and groom.

Getting up early to do hair and makeup. Figuring out how to pin a boutonnière to a rented tux. The inside jokes and stories shared amongst family and friends.

These are the experiences that our wedding guests rarely see, but to the bride and groom, to you, they are the experiences that make up your wedding day.

Hurry up and wait.

Your wedding day will fly by in a flash. Before you know, the sky above is full of stars and your feet sore from all the dancing. How do you remember this day? How do you remember your wedding after 6 months? A year? 5 years? 50 years?

Most of us have photographs of some kind. Professional, friends, big cameras, phone cameras. Maybe they’re saved in different places. A photo album or book from the photographer on a bookshelf. Facebook pages of friends and family. You have your photos to remember the day.

How do you remember your ceremony? The toasts? The first dances? Your father’s words of wisdom and love while he toasts your new marriage? The advice provided during your ceremony? How do we remember these moments?

Slowing down the day

It might not seem like it at the time, but when your wedding day is done, everything went by too quickly. We don’t have enough time in the day to talk with all of the people, to truly hear all of the wisdom and advice given, to see all the smiling faces, the dancing kids (and grandparents).

Looking back on your wedding day through video is one way to remember those missed moments. The moments we want to remember. The moments that make us cry, that make us laugh, and that make us love again.

Our culture today cherishes objects over experiences, and our weddings aren’t that different. It’s all about having the perfect reception, the perfect dress, the right colors, the right food, and stressing out about all of those choices. When the wedding day is done, however, all we are left with is the experience and the memories.

When the memories fade, what are we left with? How do we remember?